No matter how organised you are, planning a wedding can be stressful.
One of the most difficult parts of planning a wedding is deciding who to invite, especially if you have a big family.
This bride-to-be is “raging” after her father invited family members without her permission.
She took to Reddit to explain how it all unfolded and why she was now on the verge of not wanting to speak or see her father.
The Reddit user explains that she lives in a different country than her father.
So she thought it would be a good idea to ask him to hand deliver some of the wedding invitations to those close to him.
She made sure not to give him any extra invites.
“A few weeks later, he messaged me asking for a PDF version of the invite because one of the relatives lives two hours away, and he wasn’t planning to hand-deliver it.
“I asked, ‘Why don’t you just drop it off at the post office?’ He replied that he was chatting with this relative on WhatsApp and that it would be easier and quicker that way. Naively, I complied,” she writes.
This of course was a mistake on her part because he then went on to send the PDF version of the invite to every single relative, which included people she had never met before.
When she questioned why he did that he explained that he felt torn about inviting some relatives and excluding others because it’s “not the right way to do things.”
“I explained to him that: 1. It’s not his wedding. 2. He’s not paying for it, so he doesn’t get to decide to invite extra people I’ve never even met.
“But, if those people RSVP’d, he would absolutely need to pay for each one of them. 3. He was being extremely defensive over completely BS excuses, and I wanted an apology for his actions,” continued the angry bride-to-be.
She claimed that an apology was hard to get from him, but that he eventually said something like, “I might have done something wrong, sorry.”
A day before the RSVP deadline two of the father’s extra relatives replied. She let him know about the two extra people, and his response was, “Uninvite them then.”
“He created this issue. I don’t know these people, don’t have their numbers, they’re not on social media, and I don’t even live in that country anymore.
“Yet, he’s making it my problem. The urge to go no contact and never see him again is strong, and I am RAGING,” she concludes.
Many Reddit users agreed with the bride-to-be.
“This would infuriate me to no end. I’d tell him to uninvited all the extras, or HE would no longer be invited. I have very little patience for boundary stompers,” said one person in the comments section.
Another said: “Straight up tell them that your father decided not to respect your guest list that was small and you don't have space for them. Honestly uninvite your father as well. He doesn't respect you and if he can pull this cr*p, imagine what he could do at the wedding.”
“Uninvite your dad and his plus one, let the two extra relatives come - problem solved. At this point, they'll probably be better company than him anyway,” suggested another person.
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